Many times I see people who are stressed out, unhappy, overwhelmed, angry and afraid. I have to ask myself "What isn't working?" Then I see people who are happy, self-aware, and enjoying their life. I have to ask myself again, "What is working?" The interesting thing is, from outward appearances, there is no reason really as to who is happy and who isn't. Lack of money is blamed for many ills; however, I have met a number of people who have no money and are full of life and love without stress. So money obviously is not the key. I meet people who blame the people they love for their woes; however, I have met people who are not in relationship who are happy and content. So whether you are in a relationship or not is not the key either.
The one common denominator that is shared by all of the happy people and lacking in the unhappy people is a sense of self, the acceptance of who they are. The happy ones do not want to be different; they do not want their life to be different. They are enjoying what they have and don't care about what they don't have. They understand that they are constantly growing and changing. They are doing the best they can and that is good enough. They do not look for validation outside of themselves.
Basically, our story is whatever we believe about ourselves to be true. We can be victims of our childhood suffering from emotional scars; or we can forget all of our baggage from the past and focus on who we are right now. Our story is whatever we want it to be. The biggest story of all is whether we are happy or not; whether we are the result of our past or the creation of what we believe to be true. Whenever someone asks "tell me about yourself" or "who are you?" The answer is "MY STORY." Our past is only the training ground to be the hero of our story. If we are happy, we are the heroes. When we suffer, we are not.
Where we are is the result of all our past decisions. Who we are is the result of the decision we make from one moment to the next. Probably the most valuable asset we have is our smile. When we can smile in the face of challenges and fear, we will always win and be happy. When we can smile through pain and despair, we are the hero.