Sunday, 13 March 2011

People Around Us

The biggest energy drain on us is relationships. Some relationships are positive and mood elevating. Others, however, can suck such optimism, serenity and sanity out of you. To me these people are emotional parasites who drain not only our physical energy but also exhaust our emotions. The "cancerous" ones can even make us believe we are unworthy and unlovable.
Others can inflict damage with smaller but frequent remarks such us, "Dear, you are thinner now. Are you sick?" or "You are just being overly sensitive!" or "You should wear brighter colours my dear. You look pale in this". These can throw us off-balance sometimes when they poke into shaky self-worth areas just too often.

The "Me First" group of people have a sense of self-importance, entitlement, hog attention and crave admiration. Everything is about them. I get scared with these group of people because they lack empathy. If we don't do things their way, they become gruelling or cold.

The "Poor Me" group of people feel that the world is always against them. Everyone is to be blamed for their unhappiness. If we try to help them, their tales of woe might just kill us in the end.

The "Controller" are people who like to dictate how we are supposed to be and feel. They have an opinion about everything and often start a conversation by saying, "You know what you need?" ...and at the end of the conversation, we will feel dominated and demeaned.

Finally, there are the "Drama Queens". They have a flair of exaggerating small incidents into tragedic dramas. We can get exhausted listening to their excuses or stories. If they catch cold and we ask how they are, the answer will be, "...terrible. I feel like dying." If they ran over a snake, they will traumatic for the rest of their life.

It's important to get hold of oneself and choose with whom we would like to be around with. We should be healthily assertive and keep our expectations realistic. We need to take an inventory of people who give us energy and those who drain us. Spending time with loving, nurturing people and setting limits with those who drain us will indeed enhance the quality of our life.

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